We Are Not Broken: Flipping the Script

We are not broken, we are wounded. And wounds can heal, but only when we’re allowed to see and feel what caused them. Instead, the mental health care system has become expert at bandaging the symptom while ignoring the cause. It diagnoses, medicates, and silences the pain so we can keep turning up to jobs that crush us, rents that bleed us, and a society that calls our despair a personal defect.

Why is it considered normal to feel anxious all the time? To feel like something’s wrong, even when we’re doing everything "right"? We rarely pause to ask that question. Instead, we accept the unease, medicate the pain, and carry on. But what if the very fact that suffering has become so normal is a sign that something in our world, not just in ourselves, is deeply out of alignment?

There is no shame in reaching for a label when you’re drowning. I spent half my life wondering what was wrong with me, stuck in the cycle of addiction and mental dis-ease. But once I understood that none of it was my fault, the dis-ease made perfect sense in a system designed to crush us. I was able to recognise and therefore change the negative loop of “there’s something wrong with me.” That’s when the real healing began.

Mental illness is often framed as an individual problem, a personal failing, a disorder of the brain or a chemical imbalance. But the more I listen, speak, and reflect, the more I see it as something else entirely: a collective symptom of a society that is profoundly disconnected.

Depression, anxiety, complex trauma, and other mental health diagnoses, these words can feel like the first honest explanation anyone has ever given you. But they were never meant to be the final chapter. They are the doorway, not the house. We are more than our diagnoses, and we should not be looking at why individuals are failing but why society is failing individuals.

The very first DSM in 1952 described most mental disorders as “reactions” to overwhelming social and environmental stress, psychiatry understood this. Then the money arrived. It became a convenient truth, an easy fix to keep people functioning in the toxic environment instead of fixing it. Blaming the environment (capitalism, racism, patriarchy, social media, inequality, family breakdown, war, poverty, colonialism, gendered violence, and more) implies collective responsibility and requires political and economic change, things governments and corporations do not want to pay for or be held accountable for.

It was cheaper to call the reaction a brain disease than to fix the war zone people were reacting to. Blaming serotonin or childhood attachment keeps the responsibility on you. Collective change is bad for quarterly profits. So, the system hands you a pill, a 12-session CBT package, and a polite request to stay productive while the world burns.

We live in a world that is not set up for human beings. It is set up for machines. It rewards output over presence, independence over interdependence, and survival over connection. From the time we are children, we are taught to suppress what is soft, emotional, or vulnerable. We are conditioned to ignore our inner worlds in favor of external achievement.

This is the "story of separation" a narrative that disconnects us from each other, from nature, from purpose, and from ourselves. It teaches us to view others as competition, emotions as inconveniences, and stillness as laziness. In this disconnected state, it is no wonder that so many of us feel anxious, depressed, or lost.

When we suffer under this system, the response we’re often given is: "You are broken. Let us fix you." Diagnosis becomes a way to label distress, and medication a quick answer to mute the symptoms. I call this "Dia-Nonsense" the rush to diagnose and medicate without addressing the root cause. It stems from a collective "Dis-Ease" a discomfort we all feel but rarely name. It ignores the truth that mental illness does not arise in isolation, nor can it be healed in isolation. We are interconnected, and our suffering is too.

Clinicians know it’s a lie. Clients feel it’s a lie. But the funding forms have no box marked “toxic society.” I work in addiction recovery and see firsthand how people have become tick boxes for the sake of funding, and as a worker, it is becoming increasingly hard to place people at the center of our care.

Right now, the cost-of-living crisis, housing despair, and algorithmic isolation are wounding people faster than any waiting list can patch them. In the last five years, anti-depressant use in Australia has risen 60%, while real wages have fallen and rents have doubled. The pills aren’t failing us, the conditions are.

We need to stop sweeping the real issue under the rug. Why do we have so much mental illness? Could it be because we’ve normalized war, poverty, inequality, and disconnection? Could it be that so many people are suffering because they are missing access to affordable shelter, food, rest, meaning, and love? It has become tragically normal to feel futile, to work just to survive, and sometimes not even be able to do that. In an economic system that values profit over people, we are expected to pour our energy into a system that gives little back in terms of true nourishment.

Yet the more we suffer, the more we’re told the fault is individual, the flaw is chemical and the solution is compliance. We debate the symptoms but ignore the systems that create them. We blame individuals for not thriving in environments that are inherently dehumanizing.

Here’s the truth they don’t want you to land on: There is nothing wrong with your mind, but there is something sick about the conditions you’re forced to survive in. When you finally see that, the shame starts to lift. Your exhaustion is not laziness. Your despair is not weakness. Your ‘relapse’ is not failure. They are the predictable, measured responses of a healthy nervous system under sustained attack. Those symptoms are not signs of illness but signals, logical responses to a world that consistently denies our basic human needs.

The question stops being “What’s wrong with me?” or even “What’s wrong with you?” and becomes “What happened to you?” and, more broadly, “What’s happening around us that so many people are in pain?” And then: “What do we build instead?”

We need a new narrative, one of reconnection. Healing begins with community, with systems that honor rest, dignity, and belonging. With redefining health not as the absence of symptoms, but the presence of safety, meaning, and love.

There are models already emerging: trauma-informed care, peer support networks, nature-based therapy, community living, universal basic needs. These approaches understand that we don’t need to be fixed, we need to be seen, held, and reconnected.

We are not machines to be repaired. We are human beings asking to be heard. The mental health epidemic is not a personal problem, it is a mirror reflecting back the truth about our world: it is not working for most of us.

That’s why I started The Synergy Project to build spaces of solace in a harsh world. Not with another waiting room or worksheet or pressure to perform. Just a simple Synergy Circle with honest conversation, and the slow, fierce work of remembering we were never the problem.

No diagnosis required.

If you’re tired of numbing the wound instead of healing it, come sit with us. Only the willingness to stop blaming yourself for a world that refuses to change.

You don’t have to leave your diagnosis at the door either. You don’t have to be ‘healed’ to belong. You only have to be tired of hurting alone.

When we stop blaming ourselves and start listening to our pain as a signal, not a flaw. We begin the work of coming back to ourselves and to each other.

This is not about healing alone. It never was.

This is about remembering that we were never meant to do this alone.

You are not broken. You are waking up.